We are using the term “scary” figuratively.
If you are afraid of your partner please reach out to Safe Harbor by calling (920) 452-7640 or call 911.
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In case no one ever told you, some days marriage is just going to be hard. You are going to be scared it won’t work, or that you chose the wrong person, or that it won’t get better. Some days you will be afraid it’s all falling apart. All of these feelings are more common than you imagine, and none of them are a reason to give up. If you are scared about the future of your relationship, Great Marriages can help!
SOME TIPS FOR DAYS WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP FEELS LIKE IT’S FALLING APART:
Communicate
Your partner may not like to hear it, but it’s important for them to know that you are feeling overwhelmed and afraid. Being vulnerable enough to say “I’m afraid” will likely spur both of you to work on improving things.
Lead by Example
Show your partner how you’d like to be loved. Even on days where you don’t particularly feel like it (and maybe especially on those days!), show your partner that you care about them and love them. It will likely encourage them to do the same.
Talk with a couple who has a relationship you admire
Is there a couple who’s relationship you admire? Ask them to join your for dinner or coffee and time to chat. Ask them what works well in their marriage and what advice they have. If you’re not sure you know of a couple who would be willing to me with you - Great Marriages has plenty!
Get help!
If things feel like they are too much to handle, there is no shame in reaching out for help. Great Marriages can connect you with a couple who has been married for at least 15 years and who are trained to help those that are struggling.